1. Make only necessary rules.
2. Make sure the child understands what is required of him.
3. Be consistent but not inflexible, recognizing the exceptional occasion when a rule may be broken.
4. Respect the child's feelings and avoid limits that will humiliate or embarrass. A child who is consistently made to feel worthless will come to believe he is worthless and be afraid to use his initiative.
5. Give an explanation, when possible, so that he may understand the reason for the demand.
6. Give the child enough time. When possible, a word of warning pays dividends.
7. Try to set limits in such a way that the child knows it is behaviour being limited, not love for him.
8. Make sure he has constructive things to do and legitimate outlets.